Congratulations! You are considering mediation. Statistics throughout the world convincingly show that mediation has at least an 80% chance of successfully assisting participants in reaching agreement, including situations where the parties are deadlocked. Few other processes have such a high success rate.
So what is mediation and how does it work?
Jennifer Orenic, Certified Mediator
Mediation is a voluntary process in which a third neutral party (the mediator) helps to identify the issues in dispute in order to develop options, consider alternatives and reach an agreement that addresses the parties' needs. The mediator does not act as a decision maker and does not give legal advice. The mediator is the manager of the negotiating process and organizes the discussion of the issues to be resolved.
Once the parties reach agreement, the mediator provides a detailed written summary of those agreements which the parties can then submit to their attorneys for review and approval before signing. This agreement can then be incorporated into any legal documents the attorneys deem necessary. It is important to note that attorney review is not mandatory and some people prefer to sign their agreements without attorney review.
The mediator can turn in the agreement to the court and the Judge will review it and sign it making the document an enforceable court order.
Mediation is used extensively in the following areas:
Benefits of Mediation
Mediator Style
There are 3 basic styles that mediators use:
or a combination of these.
My mediation style is facilitative and sometimes transformative. It is facilitative in that I will attempt as your mediator to help you overcome communication blockages, identify hidden obstacles and develop options for mutual gain that help the parties think creatively and enable an agreement to be reached. It is transformative in that my goal in some cases will also be to improve the parties' relationship if that relationship is important for the future. My goal in mediation is to help you reach a better understanding of yourselves and each other and the issues in dispute. I want to help you reach agreements that you can feel good about and that feel fair to both parties.
Conflict is an inevitable part of day-to-day life, but we often view it as danger or crisis. The Chinese symbol for crisis has two parts: danger and opportunity. The purpose of engaging in mediation is to turn conflict into opportunity. With the help of an impartial third party or mediator, conflict can be managed and our ability to communicate and negotiate can be enhanced. When persons understand each other and feel understood, a creative energy emerges that enables people in conflict to see new resolutions and problem solve together. The opportunity in mediation is to repair or improve relationships that have been damaged by conflict.